Social media is a new medium of information sharing that is still being studied. It’s like learning on the job, except when it comes to social media, experience is the only real teacher. Truth be told, we are all learning this thing. I’ve come up with five (5) things you shouldn’t do if you want to be socially mature… on Facebook.
- THANKS FOR ACCEPTANCE
You send someone a friend request and they accept. You go to the person’s timeline and type ‘thanks for acceptance’. Dude, that reeks of social media naivety. You do not thank someone for accepting your friendship on Facebook. Chances are they aren’t even interested. That makes it feel like they’ve done you a favor. They really haven’t, and they are far from being your friend.
- THANK YOU FOR LIKING MY POST
I see this a lot and can only laugh so hard about it. You make a post, someone ‘likes’ it, and you go to the comment box of that post to appreciate the person who likes the post… come on! They’re not even seeing that. Facebook does not notify a person who likes a post, about comments made on that post. So when you comment, they don’t get notified. That may be the reason why they did not comment in the first place – to avoid the notifications.
- COMMENTING ON YOUR OWN POST FIRST
What effect is this supposed to have on anything? I mean, you have about 5,000 characters to spill your guts in a single post, to comment first on your post is to say that space was not enough for you. In that case, you do another post and call it “Season Two”, and go on to have subsequent seasons if you wish. Word of advice though, you better be either Kanye West or Femi Adesina (or both) when you do that, because no one is reading anything more than eight lines on there.
- SHARE YOUR OWN POST
Come on… where’s even the logic in that? You make an update, come back and share it all over again, why? People have seen it before. If they did not react then, they won’t do it now. Plus, it looks like you’re begging for people to be interested in that post, which is socially embarrassing, like, I’m-embarrassed-for-you kind of embarrassing.
- MAY I KNOW YOU
You cannot go to a person’s inbox and ask that kind of question. If you’re about to chat someone up, the least you can do is know what you’re getting into. And that means looking up their profile. Their info should be there. The questions you ask should be about the information you can’t find on their profile. And that question is neither ‘may I know you?’ nor ‘tell me about yourself’.
Of course you’re absolutely free to do all of these on Facebook. I’m just trying to stop you from embarrassing yourself… all by yourself.