Kemen’s abrupt disqualification and eviction from the BBNaija house has shone a bright light on a very sensitive and extremely important topic: what’s the line between sexual harassment and subtle approval? Don’t answer that question in a hurry.
Kemen, a fitness expert is one of the housemates in the Big Brother house and so is T-Boss, a pretty girl. Just last night he, Kemen, snuck up to T-Boss while she was asleep and the only thing we can see is Kemen’s hand moving underneath a blanket he used. He is disqualified and evicted from the house hours later for sexual harassment and we’re asking if T-Boss knew and perhaps enjoyed it a little, or she was fast asleep and had absolutely no knowledge about Kemen’s activity on her body.
This is especially tricky and definitely sexist because, if T-Boss had been the one to sneak up on Kamen while he slept, people would ask ‘was he hard’? That’s the common question people ask when talking about a possible male rape victim: was he hard? If he was, then he enjoyed it and so it couldn’t have been unwanted. But we don’t have the luxury of that question in this case, so you see the dilemma.
And make no mistake about it, there’s the notion of subtle approval, where a woman doesn’t indicate consent but also makes no clear effort to reject sexual advancements. Was this the case between Kemen and T-Boss?
Gosh, my head hurts!