CREATIVE, NOT ABNORMAL

Wedding

This picture has been trending on Social Media for a while now and the comments on the thread couldn’t be more disappointing. The picture shows a twin wedding ceremony in which one of the grooms wears agbada for his white wedding.

While some are reluctant to applauded the creativity, many people easily mock his sense of occasion… or the lack of it thereof. I was able to contact a family member of the groom for more information and exclusive pictures:

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The groom is one Barr. Aniefiok George, and the wedding took place at The Apostolic Church in Akwa Ibom State on the 22 October last year.

As you can see, he and his best man are wearing their neatly sewn, bright native agbada, while the bride is in a white wedding gown. Here’s the take:

The Western method of wedding ceremony we have unnecessarily adopted is their own cultural celebration of the beginning of marriage. While we use TM (Traditional Marriage) to refer to our own native wedding, the ‘white’ wedding is someone else’s TM. If, as we have these days, a couple does not want to get married twice (which is basically what it is) during the ‘traditional’ and ‘white’ weddings, they can wear whatever they please in whatever kind of wedding they choose to have. It doesn’t have to be traditional or white. It just has to be a wedding, and they can wear whatever is beautiful.

More importantly, there’s the reluctance to try something new. People generally want to ‘do as done’, and get over with the fuss quickly. But, you see, trends are set by people… and followed by the rest. Other than the sure fact that the attire looks good on the men in the occasion, the idea is creative, daring and trend-setting. Other people will follow. I mean, we’ve seen the beads and native hat on suit. It’s pitch-perfect.

Weddings have been too traditional for too long. It’s about time we created a new normal. The feed-your-spouse segment shouldn’t be limited to routine wine and cake; wedding invites shouldn’t be limited to card and a wine; DJs and live bands are not the only music options; rice is not the only meal for guests. Things can, and should, be spiced up. It’s called enhancement.

I’m just saying though. In the end, you do what your mother-in-law says.

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I don’t understand this the blacks sometimes. We just have to imitate the white man on everything he does abi? Why should even do another marriage ceremony after the traditional wedding. This guy(the groom) has set a pace for people. For example me marriage is marriage, after my traditional wedding, nothing more is needed.

I don’t understand the blacks sometimes. We just have to imitate the white man on everything he does abi? Why should we even do another marriage ceremony after the traditional wedding. This
guy(the groom) has set a pace for people. For me marriage is marriage, after my traditional wedding, nothing more is needed.

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