WHERE YOU ARE MEANT TO BE (BY DR EBINABO OFREY)

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There was a man who witnessed a tailor cutting a very expensive piece of cloth into various pieces. He was appalled at the action and could not fathom why this senseless man in his opinion, would destroy such a beautiful piece of cloth. A few days later, he saw a young man wearing a magnificent outfit and admired it. Little did he know that it was made by the tailor whom he felt was destroying the material. He had not realized that what he had thought was destruction, was actually a creative process to bring about what he was now currently admiring.

Many times when things are happening in our life, we have no idea of the ramifications. But with the benefit of hindsight we may be able to put all these things together.

Some days ago I was watching one of my favorite movies of all time. You know, those types of movies which when you’re done watching them, make you think about the events in your life and if they hold any meaning. The title of the movie is Slumdog Millionaire. For the benefit of those that haven’t watched the movie, it is about a street kid who grew up in the slums of India and by an act of serendipity found himself on the game show, Who Wants to be a Billionaire, and won the final prize because somehow every question related to something that had happened in his
life – which though unpleasant at the time, all played a role in fulfilling his destiny of becoming a millionaire.

It got me thinking about my life and I thought to myself – could it be that everything that happened in my life, in all our lives could all be for a purpose? For me, I arrived at the conclusion that it is most definitely so because with the benefit of hindsight I was able to put two and two together and it all made sense – and I am grateful for it. During my business seminars, people often ask me the question, “why did you become a doctor?”, and expect to hear the answer, “Oh it was because I wanted to save lives” or “because I felt a higher calling as a
healer’, but it was nothing so noble.

In my opinion, it was simply because when I was younger, if you were a smart science student, you either became a doctor, an engineer – or if you were an art student, a lawyer. Being a science student, my options were Engineering or Medicine, and since I wasn’t a fan of mathematics which was needed in engineering, I opted for medicine, and that was how my journey to being a medical doctor started. It was only about five years ago I realized that this path had been predestined for me; to position me to play a crucial part in the life of someone I hold very close to my heart right now.

About 19 years ago, I walked into a lecture theater at the University of Ibadan and sat next to one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen, and though I was not as handsome and as smooth as I am right now, somehow I was able to convince her to be my girlfriend. The first question is; out of all the people I could have met that day, why did I have to meet her? Little did I know then, that she was the reason I was studying medicine.

We dated throughout her stay in the university. As a microbiology student, she graduated three years before I did and again by a twist of fate, she arrived in Port Harcourt after youth service and got a job there. I arrived in Port Harcourt three years later to do my internship, and that was when unknown to me, I began to fulfill my role in her life.

During my internship she developed chronic kidney failure and again by a twist of fate, the
unit I was working in at that time was the Kidney Unit. My consultants, unaware of our relationship, assigned me to her care and I have been her very own personal physician since that day, sticking by through all the medical and surgical care – including her kidney transplant surgery. My first inclination into the knowledge that my being a doctor was so that I could take care of the wonderful lady I call my wife was that the moment she had her kidney transplant surgery, my interest in actually practicing medicine i.e. seeing patients, waned. And a new love was born in my life; business.

What were the odds of her marrying a doctor? Because as we know, it would have been much more difficult for her to cope with, had I not been a medical personnel. What were the odds of the kidney problem starting when I was already a doctor? But not just that, it was when I was in the kidney unit. What were the odds of her also residing in port Harcourt at that time and being admitted in the unit I was working in? And what were the odds that when she had finally received her kidney transplant surgery, I knew in my heart that I no longer wanted to work in a hospital?

So now,when I am asked why I became a doctor I tell them it is because I had been predestined to be the husband of my wife, to be her physician and to hold her hand through the ordeal she was supposed to face later in life. That being said, I would like us all to understand that whatever is happening in our lives right now, wherever we are and whatever we are facing, I believe to an extent, that we have all been predestined to tow this path. Think about it, many of us may not realize it but I am sure someone here needs to hear this and that’s why I chose to talk about it.

I would like to end with a quote from John Lenon which says, “There is nowhere you can be that is not where you are meant to be”

 

Ebinabo Ofrey is the Co-founder & CEO at Gerocare.